Why I chose *here* to labor with my baby
Happy bday to my little boy, and (finally) the birth story for you
This is where I labored outdoors last summer. It embodies all the paradoxes of a powerful childbirth. Amazing it’s been over a year ago already!
I chose this place to labor because it makes me feel good, while embodying all the paradoxes of a powerful childbirth:
flowing free and wild; contained by the safety of the banks
electrically energizing; auditory soothing
full of ancestral history; unique to this day
My family was with me, including my mom. As the surges would crest, she’d look at me with sideways laughter, “Daughter, shouldn’t you be heading home now?”
“Not yet, Momma,” I’d reply. “I still need one more swim.”
A happy birth story for a lucky mama and handsome baby boy
It was July, hot, bright and sunny. I had attended 2 home births as a doula earlier in the year (well, one I walked through the door to hear the baby’s cries, right at the pinkening dawn of a late winter morning). I was grateful my baby was coming in the summer, and that I had had plenty of time to get ready.
When labor started, I knew I wanted to be at the river. It was perfect.
Perfect for… floating in the water to help baby find his ideal position above my pelvic inlet… gathering anti-inflammatory electrons…. soaking up infrared and UV light… building up the neurotransmitter dopamine to strengthen my muscles for work… creating the hormone serotonin to convert to melatonin in the evening.
On this particular day, we were blessed with the rare sight of a blue heron as we arrived—surely a good sign!
Because of my research, I knew the circadian switch from serotonin to melatonin in the evening would tell my uterus when it was time for serious work.
Until then, under the bright sun, I luxuriated in Nature’s warm, safe, patient, optimistic arms.
With this, my fourth baby, I knew he wouldn’t come in the day, so even as my labor progresses, we stayed by the river’s edge. I remember enjoying my silent knowing it would be my last pregnant swim of the summer. I’d be in my postpartum nest after the baby came.
Not only was I secure in my labor process from the inside, I knew my midwife and doulas were on call for me and the VitaClay was working up a bone broth soup for dinner back at home.
We had all worked hard to have the right conditions that allowed me to spend this glowy early labor by the river.
Nourishment for birth
Something I wish I had better understood for my first 3 pregnancies is eating is a full-time job in pregnancy. I had heard the requirements, but they seemed so impossible. This time around, I ate. I really ate. This really fueled up my reserves, not only of “energy,” but also of hormones. Hormones are all either made from protein or fat.
This was my minimum checklist of super-foods I tried to eat every day of my pregnancy:
Animal protein x 4 servings
Eggs x 3
Raw or fermented veggie x 2 servings
Cooked veggie x 1 serving
Vitamin C foods x 2 servings
Raw or fermented dairy x 2 servings (I can tolerate this, not everyone can)
Seaweed to taste (a half sheet of nori plus these flakes on meals, to taste, and others like wakame, dulse, kombu and arame)
Healthy fats to taste (for me, this included grassfed butter, ghee, coconut oil, beef tallow, lamb tallow, and small amounts of lard, extra virgin olive oil, and extra virgin sesame oil)
Other proteins to taste
Trace minerals, magnesium, DHA, desiccated liver, collagen and gelatin to taste
This was based off a modified-for-me version of the Brewer Pregnancy Diet. Even though I tend to make pretty good food choices, I have a hard time eating enough.
Eating perfect ingredients in an insufficient quantity is a common mistake people who eat “healthy” make—especially in pregnancy.
My midwife and I discovered this was leading to my blood sugar plummeting in the wee hours of the morning.
This blood sugar drop before waking would lead to a super high spike when I would test my fasting blood sugar before breakfast.
Before we figured out it was from not eating enough, I was severely limiting carbs to try to fix the problem…
…But maybe all this diet stuff would be better for another post. Reply to this post if you’d like to hear more about pregnancy nutrition from me.
I’m also happy to do consultations (link at the bottom of the post).
As I had prepared so well, by the time my labor was happening, I was feeling very good and confident.
My blood pressure had stopped creeping up and my blood sugar was fairly well regulated in spite of some readings on both earlier in the pregnancy.
I had for a moment with each been borderline with regulations for home birth in Oregon, and since the midwife I chose is licensed with the State, I knew I needed to stay within the guidelines for her to continue feeling safe in turn with supporting me.
The local midwife I chose likes births to be fun. This was perfect, because in many ways, this was a redemption birth. I found her support in dreaming up my perfect birth so helpful and it all worked out so beautifully, as you will read.
I also had the virtual support of Margo from Indie Birth, and Katie, Jess, and Martha (plus all my cohort friends!) from Doula Training Center backing me up with good cheer, good wishes, and trust in me and my birth process.
Of course, you can’t know if you will have a redemption birth until after the fact.
And it’s not really like any previous experiences are redeemed… but this was one of the phrases that kept popping up through my pregnancy. I’d love to hear if you know of a better way to describe an easy pregnancy/birth/postpartum that follows a difficult one.
Once I was saturated with the good river vibrations, my walking staff made the perfect companion to trek homewards for dinner and a checkin with my midwife.
Here’s where I shared about my appreciation for this overlooked labor tool:
My midwife was, as always, a great companion that late afternoon. She even helped me with a last round of tidying! Before giving birth, I always want to get things buttoned down. Dishes washed, floors well-swept, that kind of thing.
After dinner, we timed a few contractions and they were so gentle and easy, we agreed it was still early labor. She went home to have her own meal, and I went upstairs to have a nap and get ready.
My healthy baby boy arrived 20 contractions later!
1: tried to lay down and realized I wasn’t going to be able to sleep after all
2-9: did the miles circuit for 3 contractions per position (https://www.milescircuit.com/the-circuit.html) to bring baby into a good position for birthing
10-11: on the pot (mantra: baby, this pressure is bringing us closer to meeting - Thank you to Maryn Green for these mantras for birth)
12: face-first into bed (this is the only contraction I shied away from, and I consciously brought myself back into the labor process when it faded)
13: upright looking out window and began singing (mantra: make only beautiful noises—my oldest daughter had read that in one of my birth books and had been reminding me of this recommendation throughout my end-of-pregnancy aches and pains 😂)
14: deep squat while talking to husband (he texted the midwife after this conversation) - at this point, I was planning to ask him to run a bath when he got back (LOL)
15: pacing and tried to do one last round of “dip the hip” (spinning babies exercise that I used instead of lunges or curb walking in my miles circuit: https://www.spinningbabies.com/pregnancy-birth/techniques/other-techniques/do-the-hip/)… ended up on my knees feeling baby coming down the birth canal
16: crowning with water bag intact
17: put one leg up into a runner's pose knowing this would help me catch the baby, and grabbed a quilt off of the bed to put under me… I held back from pushing, just letting my body and gravity find their equilibrium
18: head out
19: shoulders and body out, my husband came back upstairs, bringing the older children dumping a bag of towels all around me (since the birth waters had spilled all at once, everything was very wet!)
pause: I sat down for a moment on the pile of quilt and towels and birth waters to greet baby and feel him awaken to life in the air
20: back to squatting as the placenta wanted to come what felt almost immediately (all but my first placenta has come quickly—I think my first did, too, but I didn’t know to stand up and let it come down with gravity then so my first one sat at the inlet of my uterus for about an hour—my first birth happened before my first midwife could arrive, too. Highly recommend Indie Birth’s course about placenta birth, which you can purchase from inside their Mighty Network)
My husband called our midwife and she came back—hardly more than an hour after she had left. He also called the friends who had agreed to act as doulas for us.
Under a cozy blanket of red light, we all celebrated until midnight (white light only for briefly checking vitals), then I fell asleep with peace and triumph, tucked safely with my baby in our futon bed.
Here’s what I think could be useful in this birth story of mine for other families and settings:
labor in a woman with a healthy circadian rhythm tends to begin with peak melatonin overnight or in the early morning1
since I hadn’t gone into hard labor by mid-morning, I predicted I would be in early labor through the day because I have had this pattern with all but one of my babies (my one hospital labor started at night and lasted through several days, no doubt from the difficulties of that environment - light, emfs, strangers)
melatonin regulates the contractility of uterine muscle2
melatonin is also a pain regulator3
if I had felt the need to rush things along, instead of going for outdoor breakfast around dawn, I might have instead created a dark, warm, moody cave to make love, gyrate, moan and groan baby into the birth canal
serotonin itself, aside from being melatonin’s precursor, is thought to be what gives women their transcendental and psychedelic experiences in labor, which is why I wanted sunlight, bone broth, breath work and rhythmic motions of swimming and hiking to be part of my labor activities
sunlight increases dopamine receptors4, while dopamine increases frequency of contractions in spontaneous labor5
stalled labor is associated with inflammation and oxidative stress6, which is why I wanted to gather plenty of anti-inflammatory electrons7 from Nature during the long part of my labor
It’s a joy, this year, to introduce my baby to the same river.
Have you labored in Nature, or would you like to? I’d love to hear about it in the comments:
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This is 100% how is love to labour next time (for me it isn’t the river but the sea next to our home). Labour started for me with water breaking (completely unexpected for me) and whether it was intuition or fear I didn’t enter the water as I had planned and I feel it would have felt lovely. I planned a birth pool not the sea, but alas it didn’t work out- but now I see how my environment was so not quantum. I know better now.
I would definitely like to hear more on pregnancy nutrition! Thanks for all your helpful work :)